When I asked my children what was the best part about having a sibling, it amazed me how similar their answers were.
She said “effortless company and companionship”.
He said “having a friend within reach”.
Later themselves were both amazed of their similar heartfelt answers.
Great to know as a parent your own children have a special bond that will carry them through their journey of life when you are gone. My parents instilled in us the same.
I think that’s what siblings are for. While we need to recognize the differences in each other, there needs to be something there that gives you that security, safety and confidence that you have others in “your court” that love you regardless of the mistakes you make along the way.
My favourite early memories myself with my siblings would be riding in the estate station wagon on the way to the cottage. All 6 of us packed into Woody the wagon with two cocker spaniels and a weekends worth of food. My brother once wrote a poem about the experience from his lens that still brings laughter as it reflects our personalities perfectly at that time! Including my parents’ second hand smoke billowing from the front seat!
Recently with the loss of my Dad last year, it was almost like an awakening itself. My siblings all came together to support each other and my Mom, but it was the observation of how each of our children presented themselves as siblings and cousins and coming together as a sincere genuine close family. Guess all those family dinners and traditions reinforced such along the way.
In fact it was just the four of us siblings who stood by my Dad’s bed reminiscing, sharing and laughing as we said good bye to him together. He too would be proud. He taught us to stick together and express the love we have for one another (and those in your court) such that you would never regret what was never said.
I think parenting is about following your heart, showing respect and to not over analyze. Carefully sift through the materials presented. Teach respect in your children so they will grow up respecting themselves, others and their siblings.
Denise Kelly is a North Vancouver Boomer, Director of Marketing & Operations BC Kids & Co and #4 on The Stanley Cupcakes her female hockey team. Follow Denise on twitter at @theboomervine or she can be reached at dkelly@kidsandcompany.com.